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I have a restraining order against me , but ex has an undertakings to not contact me , directly or indirectly, not to come to my home or my street. Not to contact me by any social media , emails, texts etc . Not to threaten , molest or harras me . She breached it in March to which she was given a stern warning that there would be consequences if she breached again . I just want to get on with my life and to be left alone , but I was arrested this morning , my home ransacked and taken in handcuffs and sat in the station for 14 hours . My ex had gone to the police station with 4 facebook calls and a couple of messages, saying that I had been trying to contact her in April of this year .My solicitor asked for a date as I denied these calls and messages. She also said I had put some money in her bank . The Facebook entries and calls were from April 2 years ago and the money in her bank from 2020 . After the police got the actual date up I was released with nfa. I've missed a days work , my house has been trashed , drawers pulled out and content scattered over the floor , furniture upturned etc . Is this breaching the harrasment part of the undertakings as she is still not leaving me alone and purposely causing me grief . I am due to go to mediation with her mum who has a lives with order for our son to increase contact , but SS have to review and one of the recommendations was to not have any contact with my ex . I feel she has done this to thwart my progress with my son .
Hi,
I suggest you seek advice from your solicitor to decide in next steps. Maybe they can document this as harassment/false allegations.
Yes it is. Problem is its very difficult to take action when undertakings are breached. Sounds as though the police overreacted. Suggest you put in a complaint. If she does it again maybe you could apply for a non mol against her.
I would firstly put in a formal complaint against the Police for their behaviour, then contact a solicitor and get a non-molestation order against her if possible. Obviously she's playing a tactical game so you do not see your child.
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