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Can anyone please help - I need some arguments/reasons to include in my reply to my wife's divorce petition to back up my request for 50/50 residency for my 1 year old daughter - at the moment my wife is insisting that she stays with her full time and I only have daytime access - I have been looking after her nearly full-time while my wife has been out working - I believe I have a strong case for a residency - someone out there must have had a similar experience. I know the courts favour the wife but I have a real need to continue my bond with my daughter.
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These days the court is pro shared residency unless there are strong grounds for sole residency and it doesn't have to be 50/50. Positioning you discussion around a split care shows you are reasonable.
Thanks some good news at last - looking for supportive wording for my reply to divorce petition and for meditation meetings.
Many of us on this forum have been through it and certainly a supportive bunch. Being child-centric helps.
Look after yourself by means of being busy with friends and family, take up a new hobby or sport, sleep well and try not to get stressed out.
All the best
excellent advice there from halfoyster and at the end of the day the courts are only interested in the welfare of the child and whats best for them and they would rather order the status quo so seeing as you have been parenting your child as much as you have they are not going to reduce it drastically as your child will be more comfortable the way they are no need to change it.
In the real world 50/50 is difficult to achieve what with work commitments, relationships ect ect I was gunning for 50/50 and had to compromise as looking back it would be pretty difficult to achieve.
I have a roughly 60/40 shared care and I couldn't possibly have my girl anymore than I do, I don't think you will have anything to worry about as has been said keep everything child focused and work out a reasonable schedule of contact and you will be fine.
all the best
Slim 🙂
... If your wife works full time and you are able to care for your daughter during the day and have been doing so make this point, consistency and routine are very important for a childs well being and all you are asking is for this to continue as you believe it is in your childs best interests to keep disruption to a minimum.
Perhaps you should introduce a CAFCASS Parenting Plan into the proceedings, as a basis for working together to benefit your child and ultimately the family as a whole. You will find links to the plan in the stickys at the top of the legal eagle section.
Best of luck
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