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I have regular access to my daughter. Me and her mother split up when she was a baby. There have been no real issues. However I am almost certain she was seeing someone around the time of conception. I have buried it for many years in fear of losing her. I was adopted my self and no the harm lack of information can do. Does any one have advise?
How old is your daughter ? The obvious thing to do seems to be get a paternity test done in secret to put your mind at ease, but you'd need to be ready to handle things cool in case you find out you are not the father. I'd say there's not much point speculating beyond that until you know for sure what the result is.
Hi there
If you get on with the mother might it be a good idea to try and discuss this situation with her?
A paternity test would put all the doubt to bed, one way or the other, as long as you are mentally prepared for both eventualities.
I guess the most important decision would be how it would effect your relationship with your daughter, if you’re not her Dad how would that impact on her? How would you feel if she wanted to try and contact her bio father?
As an adopted child you perhaps have better insight than most, but it’s a difficult situation nonetheless and one that needs to be handle with much sensitivity and care.
All the best
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