[Solved] Partner doesn't like my child

hi,

with your decisions, is your partner happy or still complaining?
if you only see your child every other weekend now, then that is very reduced and your being reasonable in making adjustments. only difference with me is i have few hours mid week contact every other weekend. if i took that out i think i would find it horrible, longer gaps without seeking kids.

hello I've litrally just decided to reduce it no holidays have happend yet so hasnt been less yet we argue if we talk about her it's one of them tense situations shes pregnant and since she has been more snappy about her and angry but it's never been simple with my child my ex from the moment we got together caused [censored] called social kicked off constantly to the point our current daughter was investigated so my partner has alot of resentment towards all of it. I get a phone call on Saturday then get her every other weekend it's a crappy situation the more days I've had it gets rather tense and shitty in the house and noone ends up happy which is why I thought less is better means I can spend time together while reducing the kick offs. it's pretty shitty it's been 8 years of [censored] from the ex tbh and my partner has alot of resentment so I'm just trying to hold it all together because if we break up then our children will be in the same boat aswell thanks for the reply also my ex partner is really friendly with everyone my family ect and I dont see them havnt in 5 years and shes a busy body [censored] who reports you if you dont do what she says so my partner basically wants our own life we live in a little villege 10 miles away so its peaceful when my ex isnt involved but I qont stop seeing my daughter she comes now Saturday morning goes home sunday evening

My partner of 3 years has two lads, both out of school now but both still at home and no sign of them moving out....we don't live together but occasionally she starts on about us living together...I tend to say that yes we should but when they move out (lol)....to which she replies "we come as a package...take it or leave it" ....I usually find a way to dodge the fallout....

but it is a good point she makes there......you and your child come as a package, yes your ex is a nightmare but that should not detract from your time with your child....

a partner really should accept that kids should come first (in my opinion)

thanks for the reply. it always hasn't been [censored] at the start she really was alright everything flowed then the ex kept having ago if my partner did anything it would be your not her mum you cant do that then I would be reported and they would kick off constantly. the final nail in the coffin was us having our own baby and my ex stiring stuff to the point ss got involved and we had our child temp removed from us. my daughter got used as a pawn against us she was only 4 but told the ss loadsnof stuff which in future was proven to be made up. but then contact stopped with my 4yo for 2 years so there was a big gap I started seeing her when she was 6bagain so it's all been a mess so my partner always says she feels uncountable now and doesnt like ot and because were having another baby is worried about having her taking away its never been simple

i see. hope things can steadily hold for you. i will probably be in some weird situation like this soon. trying to get married. for now i can anticipate the ex trying to dump my kids on me as much as possible, in order to make things difficult for us. at the moment shes opposite and my kids keep asking for more time with me.