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... short term compromises are fine, we all understand that your ex’s situation is a priority at the moment, but I do think that you should make her aware that your relationship with your daughter is ring fenced and non negotiable in the long term... she is the adult, as such it’s her responsibility to deal with being uncomfortable about it.
If it’s just during pregnancy, fine. If it’s an attempt to start alienating you from your child it’s absolutely not fine. That’s just my opinion. All your children need you.
All the best
no I do agree with what your saying it's such a shitty one main issue is my ex is so toxic everything has to be fixed like fixed phone call fixed times ect when I have friends who's exes are more relaxed as in ring when like go online with child ect. another slight issue today plodding along partner bck at work now but one day might be Saturdays which is when I have my daughter and she has an issue with me being home with both kids and a baby shes worried about my child going back and stiring [censored] she keeps saying g her main aim is to keep the baby and not lose it like before and she said all it takes is my eldest to to back and say something normal and my ex be spiteful and stir [censored]. it's never ending she said I have 2 kids full time at home ect and they should be priority it's a [censored] annoying shot situation
It’s really tough for you and I absolutely get that... I think I mentioned counselling before, might this be something that you could push for?
If she wants you to make a compromise, she needs to understand it’s a two way street and she also needs to compromise and agree to some counselling to try and get over the past.
Best of luck
councilimg is a no go she wouldnt she just says my daughter comes for me that's all shes my child ect and that's all she doesnt kick off ect because I want her but shes not happy or comfortable so I dont no what to do really someone said just get through keep the peace and as my daughter gets older itll be easier as I can ring text her ect but its just a horrible situation. like when she comes do I just spend time with her and keep her with me most of the time so my partner doesnt have to deal with it what would you do? I think its never going to improve if sntrjing might go worse due to baby coming.
do you think separating everything would be better as in I see her every other weekend but she doesnt come near my partner or daughter then its solely on me and my child and our time and theres no hostility. I no that's what my partner wants but wont force me but it's getting pretty bad. would you do that?
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