[Solved] Partner doesn't like my child

thanks for all the replys. it's never been simple between us all. moment we go together ex cause [censored] called social ect always stir stuff same old I don't speak to any of my family due to her and she was he'll. 2015 we went through care procceddint with our youngest due to her being injured at the hospital which opend a massive case dragged out saw her in contact eventually got on the stand and proved the hospital lied and did it got her back. but throughout that my ex still tried to make us loose it all she got my eldest who was 4 to do a abe interview and basically told her what to say. it got thrown out instantly but she wasn't meant to be told anything but ss obviously told my ex got fired then suddenly she had a interview. so she's evil when it comes to exes. but she was used as a massive weapon and even though it gone thrown out it wasn't a big help and in contact with my eldest my ex would tell her to say stuff in sessions to make it awkward and obviously ss logged everything's because they was trying to win. but yeah we won her back but I didn't get my eldest back for a year and half had to drag her to court evt that's why she has alot of resentment towards it all I think. my ex is just a massive [censored] stir jealous cow always trys to ruin stuff. so I do see it from her point but also I get defensive.

Your partner has had a tough time, ideally in her head life wouldn't include your daughter. Life would be bliss without her, your partner needs to realise its not your daughters fault though, it's your ex's doing.
I was in a position were life was excellent but the ex partner was disrupting it, I was at the point of walking away from my daughter it was that bad and leaving the country just to get a peaceful life for me and my family.
I was being selfish I wasn't thinking about my daughter I was thinking about me and my family. But seriously life was excellent even perfect if you removed the ex from the picture but the ex was, only in the picture due to my love for my daughter.
My choices were, carry on being a dog to the ex and making my family suffer due to it. Or walk away from my family and still be a dog with all my children unhappy. Or walk away from the ex and daughter and give one family a peaceful life.
Luckily my daughter had seen her mother controlling life etc and at 9 years old refused to return to her mother and she's been with me since April and hasn't seen her mother since then so it's all good now.

definatly life would be perfect if my ex would just disappear i won't leave my daughter and my partner knows that. but I think that means I have to accept there's never going to be any real bound between them as to much happend. she has tried loads of times but my ex is just a jealous horrid cow. you get the picture by the sounds of it. so it's basically trying to please everyone while keep everyone loved untill she's older. she notices alot she knows she can't see me more due to her mother and always asks me stuff. I don't even have to explain she witnesses alot of her mum saying no. it's just all been a mess from the start and to be fair it a the most stable right now it's been which is saying alot. I can only dream of the day she's older and my ex gets deleted from my life. but till then I got a court order which makes me at ease to a degree as she always use to stop then start it. and my daughter is alot older and does realise things and even her school noticed she got really bad when it got stopped.. hopefully I can just work on things and not push it as much and hopefully my partner eases into it. I'll give more and hopefully she will realise.

big congrats on having your child it makes me feel so proud of anyone who manages to get through this [censored] and even more when a dad does we already get looked apon as lower so big well done mate really pleased for you

It's been 9years of [censored] for me. Police involvement, me being arrested, having to leave the house at all hours cos the ex was threatening suicide or telling me to pick our daughter up. Imagine getting 20texts at 2in the morning and waking your wife up saying I have to go, this went on for years. My wife was supportive and said do what you gotta do. I was the one who wanted it to stop hence I was going to walk away from my daughter.

I get the picture I feel sorry for you and your daughter. Hopefully in time your partner will grow to love your daughter like her own. My wifes nature is loving she treats everyone like family.. To my annoyance at times
lol.
Can't you find a way to build their relationship like team building? Like go swimming and u stick with your other daughter so your partner has to keep your daughter safe? Or would your partner say she's your daughter u look after her?
Most women have natural maternal thing with kids regardless of if is their own, is your partner like that? If so play on that? Gotta be clever with women lol

Does your daughter like your partner? Get her drawing her love hearts and things maybe? Try things you think a strange it might work in softening your partner.
Word your daughter up and if out shopping get her to say ti want you to buy that for *your partners name*.
See it like your daughter is you , you want woo your partner. I dunno just try anything