[Solved] Partner doesn't like my child

hello update since then. my partner doesn't like my daughter going around her family anymore her mum ect. as her mum's full on hugging kissing ect with my child and she says it's weird.

she wants to separate our life. with our child to my daughter who visits and says she comes to see me and my other child not to see all her family ect.

obviously I get defensive and that. she says my daughter already has a family as she sees mine and my exes and has loads of people so why does she need to be involved with the little family we have.

I don't see any of my family so I basically have no-one of my own.

my question is what should I do kick off or just separate it all. she still does basic when she's here food gifts ect but she doesn't like her because of all the stuff but she does all the basics for me.

what do I do agree then just separate them all or kick up a fuss which makes her even more annoyed.

You’re between a rock and a hard place really, with no easy solutions here.

It’s seems that time isn’t improving things, as she wants to put more barriers up. As much as I can understand, I do think as the adult, your partner is being a little unreasonable and sounds a bit jealous if I’m honest.

I can’t tell you how you should react, but your daughter is bound to pick up on the increasing hostility and will notice the separation. Could you talk to your partners mum about it?

You could perhaps think about some form of family counselling, to help your partner get over what happened... blaming a young child isn’t right and will only store up bigger problems for the future.

All the best

it's definstly abit of everything jealousy and resentment. she's already said she doesn't want more with my child and just to accept she comes for me and to see me that's all. so it's tricky I know if I push and push it'll end up more and more arguments which in turn she then says we only ever argue because of her. my daughter never knows of anything we say as my partner does act nice to her and does basic stuff food washing that type it's just more stuff. I'm just unsure what to do either roll over and accept itnor don't. my partner says I get her 4 days a month so what difference does it make we don't meet her mum on them days and separate it.

just so much has happend with my x and my eldest she's gone so resentful on it and given up.. talking to the mother in law wouldn't help much she's not a brilliant mother and she's only been back in contact about 2 years.

I would seriously consider counselling, such as Relate, as suggested above - I can't see that it can continue as it is now, and I think it will all deteriorate if not resolved in some way.

Your daughter is a innocent child, your current partner must be badly damaged to feel this way about her.
Hope you get it sorted cos last thing anyone would want is you being a single dad to two children.