[Solved] Partner doesn't like my child

she has a sister but nearer the time of the baby its gonna swap to just me seeing my daughter alone for abit then was the original plan to go back to normal but I'm dreading the break mainly because my partner proberly will say she doesnt want her back. it's just so [censored]

I'm sorry to hear things are difficult right now mate. I think what's key for you, is that this storm will pass.

Right now it feels like you are at the mercy of everyone else's wishes and feelings, possibly neglecting your own.

Sometimes in these situations it helps to go back to basics. Take a deep breath, tell your partner you understand her point of view, really listen and reassure her. At the same time, don't forget that your daughter is your daughter, like dad-I-d said, you come as a package. Your daughter should also benefit from knowing and being happy about her soon to be born sibling.

Try simple things. Write a little card saying "you're beautiful and I love you", then leave it somewhere where your partner will find it.

Think of something nice your partner has done and thank her for it. It can be anything, not least, the obvious, she is carrying your baby, tell her thank you for carrying OUR baby.

And most important, work on yourself and becoming a better man. That is ultimately the best use of your time.

Storms come and go. This one too will pass.

had another argument shes had enough she wants me to see her no overnight ect sepeate so I'd see her sunday that's it and maybe come back here do whatever but thats all she doesnt want anymore I don't no what to do anymore she said it reduces the [censored] my ex can do and my daughter wont go back and stir [censored] if it's that minimal. she said Sunday only as satuedsy our daughter has swimming lesson so pointless getting her at 12 and dropping her back at 6 as mum lives 12 miles away and we wouldnt have the fuel. what do I do honestly

maybe you can follow her suggestion. sunday only? be careful. she will be extra hormonal, and last thing you want now is for her to do a runner.

and whatever trouble your ex causes, how bad is it? if its like harrassment, cant you report her to police and maybe they could shut her up?

sorry If I seem whiney and moany I litrally have noone else to talk to have no family.

she says sunday only because then I can have my time with her spend time together and shes not there enough to go back and my ex twist stuff shes nuts and not a nice person. and because we lost our child through hospital negligence and had to fight to get her back shes more worried my eldest got used against us by the mum and made to say stuff it all got thrown out but it added to the point we almost lost her. I just feel so guilt ridden as my child has been used as a weapon from day one I love her to bits and it hurts reducing things when she wouldnt understand. my ex moans if I ask to increase and will proberly moan if I reduce she just doesnt like not being in control. I appreciate all your replys I just feel at a massive loss I just want us all to be happy and I want to make the right choice