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Hello I have a child that's 7 and a partner who I've been with for 6 years
My 7 year old it's been a struggle with my x throughout till now court stopped seeing controlling just generally a nasty person. Anyone who's rear my other posts will no.
My partner at the start was good sorta tried being step mum ect but over the years my ex broke it down controlled had ago told her shes not basically made it impossible. I didn't see my 7 year old for a year due to my ex and court and more reasons my 7 year old got turned against us to the point it made our current child become investigated ect
I fought got my 7 year old back have every other weekend ect
Bur my partner doesn't like her. She doesn't make it obvious to have be nasty ect but she's told.me sue doesn't want to be step mum or anything more then when she comes she comes for me noone else she will do all the basics bur not sorta wanting to bound she just wants our child and my eldest is there for me.
I spoke to her and she said she doesn't care if she seems nasty but it went to far for her to want to bother.
My 7 year old got used against us when we had issues with our child we had to go to court via care proceedings to fight to keep her due to medical negligence which was proved and found complely innocent but my child was interviews by police and my e told her to say things so my current partber is very bitter towards them.
My question is what do I do. Has anyone else had a child who they have come knowing there partier doesn't really like them I feel so mean Hut I can understand at the same time.
Any help advice would he appreciated. My partber isn't mean to her or refuses to buy cloths ect she just sometimes doesn't like her near our current child as my ex I very dirty doesn't brush her teeth generally poor hygiene which comes with my 7 year old
Thabks again
That's such a sad situation for you, I can understand it from both sides. Your partner must have been incredibly hurt, she nearly lost her own child because of it.
I really can't offer much advise, at least she is doing the basics at the moment and hopefully with time she may mellow.
I would try and make your weekend with your child about the two of you, your child will benefit and your partner won't feel pressured into taking on a role she feels uncomfortable with. Time is a good healer.
Best of luck
Thankyou for your reply I really do appreciate it it's a very tricky situation but I think I should see it for what it is at the moment and make sure she has a nice time when she visits. Just so hard to turn off the defensive side when it comes to my child but as long as it's not obvious to her at the moment I.hope it improves
Also sorry for the countless spelling mistakes I type to fast lol
No worries... hopefully you can find a way through it all, but I think you have the right attitude towards it, if you're mellow about it, it should help your partner work it out for herself.
All the best
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