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I have recently been to court for 50/50 custody of my two children. From the beginning my ex had been hard to deal with. I originally moved out of my house we shared. This house was in my name but I moved out as she was having the kids the majority. After a couple of months I found my ex was not paying the mortgage or any bills. I leggaly had to pay the mortgage as it was in my name so I payed the arrears. I think to this day she still in debt for the utility bills.
Anyway in the meantime said ex wnet to the csa and tried to claim on the basis I had them once a week. Which was a lie. It was twice overnight and twice for tea. As I worked night-shift at the time. I was then ordered to pay 550 a month plus 610 mortgage I was paying to keep a roof over there head. My take home pay was about 1800.
As the CMS couldn't do anything about my situation I took matters in my own hands. Her and her new boyfriend(who was also staying over at my house, how lovely) went away for the night. I gained entry to my house and changed all the locks. She was mortified, I was elated. I was perfectly in my right and told her the kids were welcome to come home.
Since then I have been to court and considering all circumstances, her refusing mediation, ignoring letters, not attending courses the court had asked us to do, not turning up for the 2nd hearing out of 3.the court granted me 50/50. I was very confident in getting more than this but I thought the kids needed to be with her as there school is closer to her than me and also I work full time she doesn't. Dad's do have power and it's all changing now, it's what's best for the children. Never give up
I attended the required mediation last week so will see how she responds.
How did you find the court appearance? - I am representing myself.
Was maintenance discussed as part of the order?
She is still being arrogant with her control at the moment and demanding money -which it is all about really to her !
Thankyou for your reply -been very useful and a boost
hi J87,
thanks for your update. very motivational. as part of your 50/50 arrangement, what is it like? do you have to do lot of school runs?
thanks.
Hi , she dictatetes around her shifts -mine flex around hers -significantly. -so yes I do a lot of school runs both ends of the days -with no child care support !
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