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Hi,
Has anyone here experienced parental alienation and how have you gone about tackeling it?
My partner has two children, 10 and 12.
He doesn’t have a contact order in place and his ex partner is making it increasingly difficult for him to see his children.
She creates conflict internationally in order to disconnect the children from him. She spaces out his visits to 4,5,6 sometimes 7 weeks.
Now, on the weekends he is supposed to spend with them she says they don’t want to spend the night with him so he has to drive them back and forth to her house.
She doesn’t let him take them to their various activities during his time with them but insists she needs to take them and they prefer her to take them. This even though the children have told him they want him to take them...
And so on.
Every visit she starts a new reason to stir something up and often makes the children think my partner is cross with them for one reason or another which is never the case.
The children are distancing themself slowly and do not respond to contact now and it’s simply devastating to see how her manipulating them is working.
It’s blatant parental alienation.... what does one do?
Hi there
If you’ve read through previous posts, youll see that what is happening to your partner is more common than you would think... it’s a very sad state of affairs.
It’s probably time that he applies for a court order to be honest, it probably won’t stop her behaviour, but it will afford him some contact structure and a regular schedule that will benefit the children.
His first step is to attempt mediation, but from the sound of it that won’t be effective, so the mediator will sign the form to enable a court application to be made.
Its a good idea to keep a record of events, cancelled visits, screenshots of conversations, emails etc which may be helpful when/if you go to court.
All the best
She's now denying him contact due to him getting re-assessed for CS. She's not legally allowed to do that right?
Without a court order in place she can do more or less what she likes unfortunately. By CS do yoy mean child support? Some women will stop overnight contact so that they qualify for more maintenance.
As I said earlier, I think mediation and court is your next move, otherwise she will just continue with more of the same.
Heres a link to the mediation service
www.nfm.org.uk
Best of luck
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