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Advice for my son and all the family please.
My son had a casual relationship and she got pregnant. I went to see her and her mum and she swore he was the only one so we accepted this, i gave her a baby shower at 7 months and never heard from her again until 1 week before her due date. I sent her a few messages but no reply my son did too but between the both of them they got a bit nasty (both of them) i live 200 miles away and repeatedly asked her to let me know when she went in labour so i could drive there my bags were packed. At 5 to 12 one evening i got a message from her mum announcing the birth of the baby. I also had to inform my son, although he was supposed to be at the birth they never told him either. She had also been in hospital for 2 days before and we werent informed. She then changed her mind about the baby having his surname. My son repeatedly asked her to make arrangements to go register her birth, 3 weeks later we find out shes done this already without a named father. He picks the baby up mon tue wed and is “allowed” 2-3 hours with her. She pesters and pesters for money and my son told her she cant have the cash but anything she wants he will go and buy. She sent a xmas gift list out asking us to buy something on the list, i told her im going to buy items for my sons eg. Basked, clothes, boucy chair and other things he’ll need. She says she registered her without him because he wont give her money and itll stop him paying child support. Hes now asked her for a dna test as the reason she has registered her without him is she isnt sure shes his, but thats just our feeling, she wont respond to this request, before he goes down official channels as not to anger her more what can he do
Hi There,
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Is your son paying child maintenance, if he isn't then she could open a case at any time and he would then need to pay her regular payments.
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he could apply to court for a DNS test so he could find out, or he could have one done, if he is having the child with him, without her around he could just get one done and then know for certain, if it turned out to be his, she would never know it had been done, and he could deal with things if it wasn't his.
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GTTS
If you ask the court to order a DNA test and it comes back as his child then he can apply for declaratory of parentage which would allow him to go on the birth cerifticate
If it is a contact order he seeks then he must apply to the local family court of where the child lives and fill in a c100 form, if he wishes to apply for parental responsibility then he needs a c1 form as well
here is some useful info on child maintenance
https://www.gov.uk/child-maintenance/disagreements-about-parentage
Thanks for the advice were going to think hard about our options which way to go, this is very frustrating, she is being so mean but she knows she is the one in control.
If you do apply for a court order then you must understand that the court requires both parties to of attempted mediation first
She has agreed to a dna test only if she gets a copy of the results sent to her, we have decided to pay for a reassurance dna test first then we will know which way to go. If she isnt his then all ties will be broken- even though shes only 3 weeks old we have bonded with her and itll be hard- and if she is then we can go the court route whatever that takes to have his name put on the birth certificate and have proper access not a txt message an hour before. I would like to thank people here for your responses children should have and should know their dads keep up the fight regards x
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