[Solved] Not given any information regarding my children?!

Now, please bare in mind that if I did that, then I get charged for 1) my email to the solicitor,2) an email in reply,3) then her email/letter to my ex,4) then for any email/letter received as a reply,5) and then probably for another email from my solicitor regarding the outcome. Basically, all that would cost me in the region of £50-80!

I don't understand why you think you would get charged for her solicitors responses to you, or to her. You would only get charged for things you asked your solicitor to do surely. It wouldn't cost you anything if you write to her solicitor, rather than your solicitor, which there would be a charge for.

It's a difficult one to answer, if CAFCASS won't help and you can't ask directly, the only other option you would have is to apply for new directions in your existing case, asking for CAFCASS to pass on information about your childrens progress to you monthly, as you have PR you are entitled to be kept up to date with how the children are doing .

The point, is that having PR is academic if in reality, no one tells you anything about the children.

My ex does not have a Solicitor now, just a Barrister. Every letter/email my solicitor handles to/from myself, is charged at a set rate. When a solicitor(even your own), tells you they won't charge you for a particular email/letter, then as sure as the sun rises in the morning, they will make up for that loss another time. I've been doing this for a year now, and I keep all my invoices.

If I then want directions for information regarding the kids, to be suggested in Court, then to do this would involve work by my solicitor, so once again, this is costing me.
That is the whole point of what I was conveying. I am next going to court in September, so when all is said and done, I have no information about my kids in the meantime, and no remedy to alter this(in reality). All CAFCASS have told me recently, is what school my son will be attending in September, and nothing else.

Even if contact was made with my ex, there is no requirement for her to tell me the answer to my questions, or to give a truthful answer, if she was required to.

I think I will retire from public speaking, until further notice.

Cheers, S74

The point I was making is that you don't have to do it via your solicitor. Why can't you write to her barrister yourself?

You can also make the application for new directions, you don't have to use your solicitor for that either. You would then only be faced with the fee for submitting the further application.

I understand that you are frustrated by the system, I can only offer options but the best advice I can give at the moment is to have patience... September is a long time away and you will need every ounce of your resolve to get there.

You can speak to the school and ask them for a progress report, what clubs they attend and how well they're doing. There's a letter template that you can use to communicate with them.

Mojo,

I am aware that I could write to her barrister myself. I firmly believe that the outcome would not be a positive one, as I am at the mercy of my ex. If no one has any duty, or if I don't have any right to be told stuff, then I'm screwed, period.

To apply for directions with the court, asking them to get the other side, or CAFCASS to tell me stuff, is going to cost me money(more than £50-80), and it is quite possible that nothing will come of it. Meantime, I am totally out of the loop regarding my kids lives.

I speak to the school regularly, and have been told that they cannot tell me anything about the children out of school. Maybe they would tell me about after school clubs, I will have to ask, but maybe they wouldn't, as they might worry that I would turn up. Either way though, I can ask, yes. I do receive reports about the children etc. Where do I get this template from(letter template to the school etc?)

All the best, S74