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I'm trying to put one foot in front of the other.. Most days I just can't move through being consumed with grief..
I would strongly suggest contesting it. It was my biggest mistake, My ex did the same with a stack full of lies. I can (and have since) proved them wrong in the discussion in court about seeing the children.
My solicitor tried for an undertaking, my wife would not agree to it, the non mol was then placed on me on a no admissions basis so not facts or findings were made against me. I only did not contest it was because i wanted to see my children, if i had contested it, i would have to wait months for the next hearing. Although in court my wife agreed i could see them at a contact center until the child hearings were complete, the following day, she changed her mind and I have not seen them since. I will be seeing them soon though, I am beating her and proving all of her lies along the way.
If you can prove all of her allegations are made up, then contest it. I really wish I had done this now, I hate myself for not doing it as there are so many women out there doing this to decent people.
Hi Ferfer. I didn't even have a chance to ask for an undertaking.. It was such a blur, as I sat in Court with my head in my hands crying.. All I could say to my Barrister, was she's done this to me in 2012.. Anyway, I know the judge said he wanted the C100 child arrangements order to be heard at the next hearing of the non molestation order.. Its been 6 weeks and still the judge has not put it as an order... I've now only got 7 days, until my C100 hearing, more money I've got to spend on a Barrister (Although she's good). Ive still got to attend an interview with the police, regarding her allegations that I breached the order as well.. If that wasn't enough.. To say I'm struggling is an understatement... And on it goes.. Why do our wives, girlfriends end up doing this to us, married 14 year's, and its been lies, lies and more lies. Plus she a seriel cheat...
Why do our wives, girlfriends end up doing this to us, married 14 year's, and its been lies, lies and more lies. Plus she a seriel cheat...
they become heartless losers overnight for some reason. one theory is once they have collected children from you, you are now disposable, and they now have human assets to claim benefits/CMS and council housing. set for life. tax man will be haunting my ex and her family for a long time haha. not standing for their BS.
Very true bill.. They seem to be happy causing pain all along the way... And on it goes...
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