[Solved] Non molestation order and occupany order

Hi There,
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It sounds as though you are taking the right route by seeing a solicitor, they will be able to advise you properly of what action you should take.
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It does seem that she will make it difficult for you to see the children.
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Keep posting and ask anything you need to know and we will try and help.
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GTTS

Hi need advice. 6 months ago I bought house for me girlfriend and three kids. I spent close to £40000. Girlfriend made no contributions and did not do so over 6 months. At time I bought house she borrowed £10000 to give to a man she had just met to start a business. I wasnt happy about this. Also strongly suspect she had an affair with this man. She accused me of being controlling. She lost all her money. She also has a lot of other debts and always asks me for more money. Four weeks ago I came home to discover I couldnt get into my house as it was locked from inside. Reported it to police. After 2 weeks we made up but things got bad again because of her very interfering family. Next thing I am locked out. Non molestation and occupancy order served. Death threats received from several members of her family and even worse things done to me to destroy my reputation. Have not saw kids in almost 2 weeks.

If you are threatened you should report it to the police, if it were the other way round you can bet she would getting a NMO on you and your family. It might be the case tha you can argue for a cross undertaking that you both agree not to contact the other.

Anyway. Non molestation order is nonsense. 18 points about how controlling and violent I am. How I only spent half an hour a week with the kids and made her be there during visits. That we met before her first child was born. (He is not my child but I have raised him as my own and will continue to do be his father no matter what. I will pay his child maintenance also. Hardly signs of an unreasonable man). He was 6 months old when we met. Texts to prove this also. We have actually lived together for 6 years! Also claims I got her to sign legal documents to believe she owned half of the home. And attempted rape. Texts and photos prove we have a very adventurous [censored] life and strongly cast doubt in this allegation.
I have response to her statement prepared in which i destroy all her claims. I have evidence through google maps timeline to show I lived with her for at least 3 years. Hundreds of text messages that disprove her allegations. Over 5000 photos of me and kids to prove I am very involved father.
Yesterday she told me she will not be showing up to court and case will be dropped because I am father of her kids and she dies not want to embarass me.

Its not just a case of not turning up and the case getting closed, there have been serious allegations made and there are children involved, the judge will want to explore this in more detail in my opinion and an adjournment is far more likely in my opinion.

However I am not happy with this. I want my response to be shown to the courts. I want it to be known that she lied to get revenge. I want each and every one of her allegations retracted. I want her family to know her statement is false. If she just drops the case she looks like she was to frightened of the big bad man. How can I get her claims thrown out and show friends and family her claims were malicious? If she just walks I am eternally the bad guy. How do I make sure my version of events are known if she walks away?

as I said, I'm pretty sure the case will not be dropped, you should get your day in court, but be careful about making it look like you want to get any kind of revenge on her, the courts don't like to see that and it might backfire. Keeping calm and reasonable and child focused is the way to be if you want to get a good result.

I am seeing solicitor tomorrow. He does not appear to worried but believes she will make life very difficult to get access to kids.

Hes right, I would certainly concentrate your energies in that direction. With the child that isn't yours biologically speaking, you would be advised to make an application for Parental Responsibility, there's a time limit once a couple separate as far as non bio children are concerned, your solicitor should explain that to you. It might be a good idea to submit an application for a child Arrangements Order for contact, although the court might not hear that application until the NMO is dealt with.