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Hi I’m looking for some help regarding a non molestation order issued by my ex partner on me
The order went to court we were both present I disputed the allegations in the order that she made as they was all false but I accepted the order as I didn’t want her contacting me anymore..
Now a month later she has sent me text messages which I haven’t replied to but just found out she has been contacting my children which I have from a previous relationship and my kids are confused she’s told them they can talk but not when my kids are in my care at a weekend.
But she’s been messaging them when they’ve told her they are with me.
What should I do ? I don’t want her contacting me and I’m not happy she’s contacting my children. My children love her as a step mum and I know she cares a lot about them but I think it would be better if she just left us all to move on rather then keeping contact
I’m at a loss what to do
you can try contact social services and say shes alienating your kids. would that breach the NMO thing you have? not sure.
Well done for ignoring the texts, you must be really careful not to respond to her, you could end up back in court.
If it were me I would speak to the police about it, it’s on record then that she has been trying to contact you. Hopefully they will agree to go and speak to her to warn her to stop. You could ask the police to advise her to stop contacting your children too, as its confusing them.
If you don’t want to involve the police you could get a solicitor to write to her to tell her to stop contacting you and the children, at the risk of having an injunction for harassment taken out on her, if she continues.
If you had access to the kids phones, could you put a block on her number? Or ask their mum to.
All the best
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