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Thank you, I will do those applications.
I will let you know how I get on.
It’s important that you think about contact for the children and the mother. The court will expect you to encourage contact, the PSO would prevent her from not returning them. You could suggest contact takes place in a contact centre, or through a trusted third party, such as a family member.
If you’re not at home at the moment, it’s important that you are seen to be trying to facilitate safe contact for the children, with their mother, as hard as that might be right now.
Here’s a link to some more info on PSOs
http://www.thecustodyminefield.com/flapp/prohibitedstepsorders.html
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Hi all
Just an update on my situation, I had to attend an emergency court hearing last Friday morning, I was informed of this at the last minute.
I was in a real panic as I did not have any suitable clothes with me, so a quick run around the shops to purchase suitable attire to go in front of the judge.
I was absolutely petrified, but prior to going in to see him, my solicitor and her solicitor had thrashed out some agreements.
We both agreed to drop the non molestation allegations, and agreed to a 3 day rolling Rota to have the children.
I agreed that she could have them for 3 hours after the hearing so she could see both children for the first time in a week and half, she cried when she saw them.
Since then things have calmed down and seem to be working well.
I have lost my job so the next hurdle is finding something that fits in with my childcare, I do not know where I am going to get the money from to pay my rent this month.
We have to go back to court in June to give an update on how things are going, hopefully we can report things are going well.
I am pleased with the outcome so far, fi gets crossed it carries on being amicable between us.
Thank you all for taking time to give me advice, really do appreciate it.
Hi there
It’s good that you were able to reach some agreement on Friday, that sees you having an equal share of time with your children. I’m sure the children were pleased to see her too.
Losing your job is a bit of a blow, but hopefully you can find something that fits around your child care commitments.
I think all in all you’ve had a good result that gives you both the opportunity to build a good working relationship... if you can work together for the sake of your kids, they will benefit greatly.
All the best
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