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Thought if share my story so far:
So last Wednesday my ex got an emergency non molestation order. - similar to other stories in here: based on lies and omissions.
Took Thursday off work - contacted a solicitor - and spent the day writing down my statement.
Met with the solicitor in the afternoon. She'd spent some time going through my ex's statement with questions to ask me, before we got to that I showed her my response: she said she couldn't charge me for drafting the statement - I'd done a brilliant job.
We're going for cross undertakings. This will likely be rejected, but the order might be dismissed regardless. It was very light according to my solicitor, and she was lucky to get it in the first place.
It's costing a bit of money, but to be honest the look on my ex's face when she sees I have a solicitor will be priceless. She's spent 4 years putting me down, and now wants legal aid for the child arrangement order. - I suspected this, my solicitor confirmed that's exactly what it looks like.
In court tomorrow. Applying for child arrangement tomorrow morning - finalised the forms on Friday.
So far my solicitors have been brilliant. Split payment - £300 total for drafting all the forms and finalising the statement and going to courts.
I'm nervous, I know that I can't be sent to prison. But this battle is too much at the minute.
I did my research - including here - and others should know ( most I suspect will ). These orders are very easy to get. Don't panic straight away. Just regret not getting there first - the things my ex has done, I'd of got one no problem. But wanted to sort amicably.
With some people it's all about control. My ex is one of those people.
I do wonder - it's rare I know. But can the court look badly on her case if she refuses cross undertakings. - her solicitors will definitely say no to this. However, she may not be represented on the day.
To anyone in this position:
Sit down
Think back
Don't panic
There's no winners in cases like this. The court knows that. The future and the kids are paramount.
I'm looking forward to moving on from my ex. She's just evil. She makes out to be a great mum, and she plays a great victim. The truth is though, she has serious control issues & I'm done being the punching bag.
Hi and welcome to the forum.
Thanks for sharing that - as you say, a lot go through it, so it's always good to have a calm perspective on it.
I've moved this to the legal eagle section as I think it's more appropriate in there, but feel free to introduce yourself more in the 'welcome' section 🙂
Thank you 🙂 I realised I'd posted it wrong - using my phone.
Speaking to my mp this week. The law does need to protect people. Absolutely.
But it shouldn't be taken advantage of.
Just to update, i got cross-undertakings, so that should hopefully mean we can move forward with our lives.
Mediation was mentioned, but i'll be applying via the courts
An we can communicate by text or email about the kids.
- To others battling this - get legal advice, it's worth it.
Thank you for sharing, well done and good luck going forward.
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