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Hi all, I split from my partner in March 2016 and she's claiming domestic abuse which I didn't do and there is no proof or evidence (even CAFCASS agreed) then she claims harassment ! I have no criminal record, not known to the social services, not know to the local councils, never hit her or the kids, never put them in hospital, she's never went to a refuge. Went to court on Monday and they said they need a section 7 report doing. I can't see the kids until after that next court date is Nov 2016. I have 3 kids, two girls 4 & 7 and a boy who is 18mths old. What can I do ? Going insane ? All this time the ex is filling their heads with negative things about me.
I'm surprised that supervised or supported contact wasn't ordered as an interim arrangement while the S7 is being carried out. Was this not discussed at the hearing given that CAFCASS said there was no record on the safeguarding checks?
Did you have magistrates or a District Judge? Were you represented?
I'm sorry you have to wait that long, unfortunately many areas are taking up to 12 weeks to carry out S7 reports at the moment.
I was in the court room 15mins. I was representing myself. They said its down to CAFCASS to say if I can have supervised access. I was at the magistrates court.
I'm not known to any authorities.
Just a joke !
What happened to innocent until proven guilty ?
I'm really sorry to hear this, but if you didn't ask for interim contact in your application then it's likely that's why they wouldn't give it further consideration. Being unrepresented, you probably felt that you couldn't argue your case, it can be very daunting when you have no experience and are unsure what you can say.
The fact that she has made allegations means that the court has a duty to take them seriously whether there is proof or not, they can't afford to take the risk of harm to the children, even though they may think that the allegations won't stand up to scrutiny. Once the report is done and the checks made then they can move things forward.
Your children are still very young and I doubt they are capable of being turned against you....I agree that it's unfair and your children are the ones that are being made to suffer the most, so you must stay strong for their sake.
All the best
This makes me very cross, a District Judge would have been likely to allow some supervised interim contact where as magistrates tend to sit on the fence and don't have a clue what they're doing.
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