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The non mol isn't valid until its been served on you. You then have a chance to refute it. If it was obtained without notice to you, then there will be a date for a return hearing. It may be that she hasn't actually applied or obtained one. You will have a copy of her statement and all the paperwork when/if it is served. In the meantime concentrate on the C100 and you should have a date for that.
@champagne it’s been served today at 11am with the statements so frustrating but laughable at same time and hearing is at 11am Monday so just looking for advice I will be asking for it to be discharged not interested in anything else after reading it all her actions need to be conquences and seen for the false made up allegations
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Now that it has been served and you have her statement, preparation is key. With controlling and coercive allegations you cannot just say things are lies or malicious. You have to either add context so that if something did happen but she is twisting things then you explain a different viewpoint or if something didn't happen then to make it clear that it didn't happen. Be careful not to use emotive or inflammatory language as often that is what they are relying on to then portray you as an aggressive and controlling individual.
Good luck..
@daddy-up but Mondays hearing won’t be regarding the evidence will it just me stating if I accept or not cause hearing is only 30 mins...also I can write everything down as your stating no emotion and can I read from my paperwork replies I will give ??
Thats correct. Monday will be about whether you accept or not.
@daddy-up sorry keep on so Monday I just need to state I do not consent to the order and I find the allegation to be false and thereby request a fact finding hearing ?
- @daddy-up also should I ask for full police disclosure on Monday is there anything else I should ask or be seeking
I would go to court and say the NMO application is to obstruct my son/daughter having a relationship with father and is been made out of malice.
None of this is factual and mum will leave no stone unturned to hurt me
You don't request a fact finding.. Upon your rejecting the allegations, the judge will arrange a final hearing... That's the one you are preparing everything for..
On Monday there are lots of ways you can do things, with it being a remote hearing, having something pre planned that you are comfortable with would be best. It really won't last 30 mins.
@daddy-up brilliant thank would it be worth mentioning applicants use of this order is not to protect her it’s to prolong any contact with the children
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