[Solved] Nightmarish situation with ex., even with shared care.

I’m new to this forum.

This is background to my situation. My ex-wife left when she was in the latter stages of her pregnancy on good terms. To cut a long story short I was contacted by the Police to attend a voluntary interview. I attended and was informed of a clearly false allegation of the ‘r’ word by my ex. A little later on the first I hear of anything of my son being born was when Child Maintenance contacted me. Basically after a few nightmarish months (due to not surprisingly ‘lack of evidence’) the case was dropped. I asked for a DNA test and once it was confirmed my son was mine I started the process for contact. My ex’s solicitors contacted mine back to say that they would accept access fortnightly. After accepting we heard nothing for ages, until her new solicitors contacted to say no contact will happen at all due to my domestic violence. Again untrue. I began a court case for access and it later became clear she had again falsely accused me of various physical and mental abuses. On the day of the fact-finding hearing she withdrew all allegations even before proceedings began and I was allowed contact supervised. After CAFFCASS were involved snd I finally gained shared care.

I’m the one who felt and still feel mentally abused. I’ve even had to have counselling.

We have to use a communications book and during handover of my son, I having to endure seeing my ex. She’s critical in the communications book in a passive-aggressive way, such as I’m not feeding him properly, giving him too many naps, etc. I’m trying for it to not effect me, as my son is the priority. And I reply back in the most neutral/least conflictive way as possible. How do any of you cope with a similar situation? Any advice would be appreciated.