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Yes absolutely.
Would you or anyone else know whether once I have completed DV course whether I would be able to get 50/50 shared custody? Or is that very difficult with a DV conviction anyway and pretty much impossible in my situation unless my ex agrees?
from what I heard from other dads, 50/50 is almost impossible to get, even for dads that have clean police records. i asked my barrister about 50/50 and what are chances of getting it. he asked me if i was prepared to stop working? :p he also said courts don't like to give 50/50 when parents hate eachother and don't get along. and that my ex doesn't even contact me directly, communication is bad so would not be able to co-parent properly under 50/50 arrangement.
he said courts prefer kids to stay with one parent for stability. but that's his view and experience. he told me he dealt with 50/50 case and it got thrown out, as judges sussed out that parents hate eachother and dad took her to court to settle a score so to speak.
thanks Bill, i've figured as much. Everything seems stacked against me. My intention is to ask for 50/50 and expect to be worked down from there to the typical every other weekend. I also intend to continue video calls as in time I expect the kids to just call me whenever once they have their own tech at a time my ex decides is best (more like when she gives in to the kids hassling her!!)..
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