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I'm new to the group- looking forward to finding some support in a hitherto unhelpful world! π
I am so glad to see some resources aimed at dads. I am in my late 40s, went through a reverse vasectomy, and was delighted to have a baby daughter who is now 1-2 years old. My wife left me less than a year ago, and I must admit- looking back I was glad she did. I was in a verbally abusive relationship, cut off from friends and family, and very isolated. It was damaging to both me and my baby daughter.
Its taken some time to re-build things to a point where I can look forward to a future. I didn't get to see my daughter for the first few months until solicitors got involved. During that time I was distraught, found it hard to look after myself, and work seemed impossible. I then managed to get to see daughter once a month, then twice a week.
Endless solicitors letters, court appointments, CAFCASS assessments etc. have left me with a mix of emotions. Anger, desperation, apathy, resentment- I guess many of us can relate to that. π
So where am I now? Well, every hour spent with my daughter is precious and my most treasured gift. I am awaiting a CAFCASS report (which I hope will show I am a capable parent and don't need supervised access- I was previously, nothing changed apart from my ex being vindictive), and awaiting another court case where I should get some idea of what the future holds.
I will have to move house (and probably at least 45 mins away from my daughter and ex as I cannot afford to stay in the area), its going to be hard, I'm not sure I want to enter into another relationship, but its ok. I will rebuild friendships and improve my support network, I'm looking after myself more (running, walking, and eating healthy), and developing new hobbies and interests (something I wasn't really "allowed" to do whilst married).
Thanks for listening!
Hi Tim_B and welcome
Yes, I'm afraid this sounds pretty familiar on here, though you do seem to have sorted out a reasonably level of access now, which is quite an achievement in a relatively short space of time, and presumably your ex is abiding by the orders.
The rest will come at your own pace, keeping fit and healthy is a definite positive.
Keep in touch with how you are going on π
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