[Solved] New relationship

Hi there

As the children are still very young ....and I'm assuming they won't be moving in with you and your partner, I would take your time. You have a few weeks before the move so I would get the ball rolling, maybe speak to your parents about how to move things forward, as they have care of the children.

Speak to your kids about her on your own, keep it simple and show them a photo and answer any questions they might have. Then perhaps set up a "chance" meeting somewhere and spend a little time together doing something fun.

Let them set the pace and don't overload them with information....baby steps.

Yep, go somewhere where there are a lot of distractions for them so they can play as much as they want, but come back to you and your partner for a rest/snack/drinks - that way it's completely informal. Did this when my (now) wife met my children - youngest was 3 at the time, and by the end of the afternoon, she was sitting on my wife's lap showing her all sorts of stuff 🙂

Just an update have told the kids about new partner but ex wants to meet her before kids do. Which is a pain as she keeps cancelling when we arrange to meet up. Also found out my girlfriend is now 3-4 weeks pregnant. Despite trying to keep it quiet until the first scan one of my 'friends' told one of my exes friends who told my ex before I could([censored] hit the fan) but sorted now she just doesn't believe I will still be there for my other 2 as my oldest isn't my bio daughter and her bio father had another kid and pissed off but just gonna have to prove her wrong.

....now did telling them go? I bet they just took it in their stride.....it's such a pity your ex is dragging her feet, I hope you get it sorted soon.

Things seem to be moving pretty fast for you and your partner...congratulations on becoming an expectant father! All the more reason to get this situation sorted out sooner rather than later....I'm sure you will want to involve your kids in the excitement and planning for the new arrival...the more involved and a part of it they feel the better it will be for you all.

As you say, you will have to prove her wrong.... There are quite a few non bio dads on here that don't differentiate between their children, bio or not. 🙂

Thanks. Yeah they weren't too bothered. It was a conversation that was desperately need as they kept saying to my mum about when they go home (back to their mums) and I move back so had to explain I won't be moving back in. I have 2 kids with my ex oldest non bio and youngest bio (although didn't know if she was or not for a year as ex wasn't the most faithful person) and I have never differentiated between them and neither have my family. So excited this time round though as wasn't allowed to be involved in pregnancy with my youngest even sat in the waiting room at all scans and when she was born due to ex refusing to let me be there. Planning on asking if I could take the kids to the second scan as I want them to be as involved as possible so they don't worry about being pushed out.