[Solved] New member court order confussions

it's probably because you have a new partner, why she is being a cow and just wants to ruin your relationship.

Thankyou Bill ive started to do that now, its going to effect my new relationship if it carrys on.

Once in an abussive relationship its very hard to not be in that mode where you feel indebted or like you have to comply.
I lived in fear most of the years i was with her and i know our son will have quiet a hard time growing up so there is no way on this earth i will not be in his life.

Ive just emailed a barrister can't thankyou enough.

it's probably because you have a new partner, why she is being a cow and just wants to ruin your relationship.

She has quiet a bad drinking problem which can stop and go and at this moment id say it was on full go mode, wanting to be out on a jolly for 3 nights straight.
The pubs are back open, covid so shes not working but has warned me when she does it will be on a Friday :unsure:

i remember one time i asked another dad, how does he manage his 50/50 schedule. he said he did some school runs on both morning and afternoon on same day. maybe that's what court expected of you?

Jed on the day that you are dropping off child to school and picking up but now being expected to have child during school hours is this because either the school is closed or your child is not in the years that has returned?

i remember one time i asked another dad, how does he manage his 50/50 schedule. he said he did some school runs on both morning and afternoon on same day. maybe that's what court expected of you?

The school runs are at the end of the sleep overs, where the school drop off is the mother picks him up, its only that Friday that i drop off and pick up in 1 day i feel that if my responsibility was ongoing then my order would state from thursday to sunday but it breaks off for the Friday school time and then states pick up.
Hopefully something will now come to furuition..

Jed on the day that you are dropping off child to school and picking up but now being expected to have child during school hours is this because either the school is closed or your child is not in the years that has returned?

Child is not in the years at the moment, but this has been an ongoing problem for almost 3 years, she dissapears and doesnt come back in the school holidays so i cant go to work.

It shouldn't take any more than an hour for a solicitor/barrister to look at the order and review against what your ex is suggesting and give you their legal opinion. Try to be clear and concise with everything to ensure that it is cost effective.

Dont let your emotions get involved as it will start to cost you more.

Good luck..

Sounds like she is not sticking to order by having the kids when she should.

I would suggest keeping a diary for 6 months and then review, if you have a lot of evidence in your diary showing exactly when you have the child for majority of the time then I'd go back to court to change the order to reflect the 6 months. This will then allow you to plan work and your time etc or it will force her to stick to the agreement.

Thanks Daddyup

I cant have him more time unless i give up my job.
I do nightshifts when im not with him and some hours in the days inbetween.
I live a 20 mimute drive from school.
So have to time schedule well.
This is the problem im maxed out to pay the rent and im only just doing that and bills

She has the days she wanted it was her schedule choice and i've never been late for any arrangements, ive never not been supportive, I don't call her because I cant handle a child tantrum or cant find a pair of socks or i disagree with something hes said or heard and repeated... . the way she speaks to him is awfull like hes of no value..but cafcass and the biased looked over it all but at the same time i think i got the "live with" as they weren't totaly sure.

So i literaly ask her for nothing and if she never called we wouldnt need to talk.
I just do my court order and outside of that im at work.

I'll be unemployed in 3 weeks if she continually leaves me stranded. Then my son loses me and our home once again. I have to get the order sorted ASAP.
That will then shut her up as ill take her straight back to court if necessary and her absence will show her lacknof care for our child but i cant while there is any sign that the order can be twisted by cafcass or a solicitor
I think i have our original written up agreement somewhere also trabscripts of what was agreed by phone
Every person around her even our boy she blames for her miserable life the only people that don't get the back end of it are her party mates.

The court order reads drop off to school , if there is no school then its to her house as you have work. its pretty simple but your ex is been awkward. courts are not going to order something you cant do. contact ends in morning and if your ex has work she has to arrange childcare not yourself.

Thankyou Warwick
She is definately just being a oppurtunist with this.
The court knew full well what we asked for in schedule as the arrangement was in place before we actually went to court, its just the wording that shes playing on.

I've read many posts where fathers have been allocated times on thier work days but can't get it changed and thats why I am so worried.
I can lose my boy if she does the damage she hopes to, if i fail arrangement she can move miles away taking him with her.
Nothing is ever done for our boys best interest only her winning her own war.