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Hi everyone,
I am new to the site and so I will give you a quick bio.
I have been married for nearly four years with my partner of 13 years. We have a 2 year old girl (terrible 2's) and my wife is due any day now ( 10 days O/Due) with our second child. We are both self-employed and so I have taken a bit of time off in anticipation of baby arriving.
My wife has been quite hard work, highly strung, all of the above in fact!
I have been doing all I can but it seems never to b enough. I do 85% of the cooking, I get my daughter up every morning, I put her down every night, I care for my wife as much as I can, doing the things she wants me to do, but she keeps moving the goal posts and when I become irritable I am of course, the big bad wolf. Please someone give me some advice, tell me to 'man up' or have a cup of shut the [censored] up or tell me I'm not the only one. I understand that she is having a rough time and I am there for her.
Another issue is I have been asked to work tomorrow and although baby could come any day now I feel guilty for saying yes. Am I being insensitive?
I know that if when she starts having contractions I can be home in about 1.5 hrs and the guy I am working for totally understands.
Anyway
bye for now,
Confused father
Hi there and welcome DaddyK 🙂
You have my sympathy, and I should imagine, everyones on here! I'm sure there will be tons of Dads that can relate 100% to what you're going through. :boohoo:
Pregnancy causes huge hormonal crests and crashing waves!! I've known women turn into demented [censored] cats 👿 .. If I didn't know better I would have said my own daughter had gone insane during her 9 months! Of course these are extremes, but most women become very difficult and hard to please....and you've entered the "Overdue" phase which just makes everything worse! :woohoo: I was overdue with two of mine and believe me this is a trial...can't sleep, cant get comfortable in any position, back aches, knees, legs, breasts all hurt! Even the baby itself, now too big for its allotted space, feels like some kind of alien being inside of you every time it moves!
The only consolation is that its nearly over and once the baby is born things should return to relative normality. Of course then its disturbed sleep and three hourly feeds! But the waiting will be over and time will fly and before you know it you'll be celebrating first tooth, first steps and this will all seem like a distant memory! 🙂
As for a day away at work, I should imagine that you could do with a few hours away from it all. Try and arrange for someone to come and Mummysit for you, if you've been in each others company 24/7 it might be good to take a breather, and it is only for a few hours!
What does your partner think?
Good luck with everything and keep us posted! 🙂
Thanks for the advice.
Its difficult because my wife doesn't want to accept help from anyone, she's fiercely stubborn, and independent.
Its an emotional roller coaster ride. SHe's now saying that 'its less stressful when I"m not around'. She has also said,'Work if you want to work, do want you want!'
I will work tomorrow and if I need to get back to help and I need to get back. It's no drama.
I can't wait for our baby to arrive. i wish that I could do more thats all.
Best
DaddyK
Hi, oh boy this post brought back memories. All of what Nannyjane says is true. I was a nightmare, and over due with 3 of my sons. But as soon as baby was born I was ok. Its not long now to wait. I think you shouldnt go to work but thats my view, as you say one and a half hours, I had my second son in an hour !!
...[censored] ak 1 hour! :woohoo:
DK, I think she's lucky to have such an understanding partner...and I bet she does too, underneath it all! 😉
And ak may have had her second in 1 hour, but believe me that doesn't happen very often! So I reckon you'll have plenty of time to get back if you're needed.
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