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So I could really use some advice here. My girlfriend and I just had a son 6 weeks ago. She also has a 3yr old, whom she shares custody with. After our son arrived it became apparent to her that my stepson became second fiddle. She says I have less patience with him, pay him less attention and even get upset with him when he wakes up in the night
I don't know why this is. He and I were best buddies til my son was born.
I thought it was perhaps because I still don't FEEL like one of his parents (officially ) he still calls me by my first name.
Idk where I'm going with this. Maybe it'd just be good to know if any other men have experienced this. And if so, do you have any advice?
hi,
i am not in this position. but i think naturally when a new biologicial baby comes along, the child will get a lot more attention. you will not feel the same closeness to a stepson, as you know its not your child. its a balancing act. try and be fair, reasonable with all children that you are living with.
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