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Hi,
I'm Andrew and I have a new born son just got out of hospital today with his mummy, and it's safe to say, things just got real... I am internally freaking out, while strangely remaining relatively calm, surprisingly.... Especially once I get past the first terrifying 30 seconds every time I pick him up when I feel like I'm going to break him, once he's in my arms and we are both comfortable, I am more calm than I ever been in my life... I have real trouble sleeping, have done all my life... but watching him sleep, soundly in my arms makes me so sleepy. Does anyone have any tips about getting over that fear... I know they are not as fragile as they seem but I'm just terrified to initially pick him up, it's his head, it just falls so easily, flops about all over the place... I'm a big guy and he's so tiny... and I'm terrified!!!!
Congratulations Andrew!
It's daunting for sure, but you'll soon get the hang of it, you already know to support his little head and you'll develop your own technique I'm sure, and before long you'll be scooping him up one armed and tucking him into the other in one easy action!
You could try practicing on a cuddly toy... when no ones watching! 😉
Best of luck
Hi Andrew,
Welcome to the forum and huge congrats!!!
It is daunting when they are so small, but as Mojo has said you will sonn overcome that initial fear and won't give it a second thought, when my son was very young, at first like you I was fearful of him being so small, but after no time at all, I would be holding him in my arm while doing other things without giving it a thought.
I remember feeling sleepy when sitting cuddling too, it's really relaxing.
I have another on the way due in Sept, so will no doubt go through it all again :woohoo:
GTTS
Don't worry, you'll get used to it - takes about, ooh, 20 years to get the hang of it 😀
20 years........my stepson is 14 and taller than me, don't think I could pick him up let alone be worried about him being fragile!!! :silly: :silly: :silly:
GTTS
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