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My kids are in bed fast asleep and safe, my ex is wanting to come pick them up at midnight. even though i have another 2 days with them and have letters stating that i have joint custody from her is there anything she can do????? please help me urgent as i am expecting the police to come knocking and want to wake them up thank you so much for all your help
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Sorry, only just seen this. What happened last night? I know it's to late to do anything for yesterday, but you can plan for next time.
well today the kids are still with me. my ex has asked if she could pick them up and i said yes at the set time which is 6pm on tuesday but now she has rang the police and said that i threaten to kill my kids. i love them lots and would never dream about it the police came here and they were happy with the kids so they said its up 2 you if they go back on tuesday as they are well looked after and well treated. any advice on wether i should send them back or not thanx
When you say you have letters on joint custody, are these just informal letters or are they a court order?
When you ask if you should send them back, do you mean at the allotted time, or are you considering keeping them on a full time basis and going for full residency?
i have formal letters from my ex partner signed and dated. and im also thinking of going for full residancy as i dont think she is of a stable mind for sending the police to my house thinking that i would kill my kids i have never put this in her head and my kids are my world
informal letters from what my ex partner has wrote to me not court letters sorry
hi
That's actually quite good, it means that your ex doesn't have a residency order, which means you could go for residency. What are circumstances that the children are in with your ex - are there any concerns for their wellbeing etc - you have to consider what is going to be put before a court.
I'll move this whole thread to the legal section in a day or so, as I think we will be calling on the opinion of the CCLC once we have some more information.
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