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ok as some of you will not, and i will say you have helpd me alot,, i say thankyou, ok was in court last week again, about the 7th time, re, contact, my child, mother has refused , anything, and everything, , shes not even agreeing with cafcass , but ive been in supervised center, for 5 months, have had cafcass reports, all , good, so then, supported , by same,, for 4 months,,but out in the comuinity,, supported, so then , court, again, and i find myself back in center for 6 months,, all because of my nasty ex,, now this is ok,, to a point,, but its the same old thing, nothings moving forwards, and i no its affecting me and baby,, the court also want a position statment from both parents, on moving forwards, ? hows best to right somthing,, its really taking a toll on me, , to the point were i want to walk, away,, im an emotional wreak, and whats made me like this is 2 hours contact in two weeks still, same as it was since last year,, its so hard,, help,
I'm sorrry to hear this, it's unusual for contact to go backwards, it's a pity the court couldn't take a firmer hold of the situation with your ex.
A Position Statement is a brief statement to outline any concerns and what you would like the court to do. Have they stated a maximum number of pages? Have they given you a date when to send it in?
You will need to do it in the proper format and I'll link some helpful information about it, with a template that you can use. I always find that when writing a statement, its necessary to make at least 3-4 rough drafts before the finished product. Less is often more and it's important to stick to the facts and keep it child focussed. You can also prepare a schedule of increasing contact over a period of time, to show the court that you are thoughtful to your child's needs.
I can't remember how old your child is, but I would expect that overnights should start between the age of 2-3 yrs old.
do you have magistrates or a DJ? If it's magistrates, I'm thinking you might need a stronger & firmer statement. Whichever tier of court you are in, it might be beneficial to get some legal help with composing this statement.
2 years old mojo, thankyou,
i had 3 of them, think there lay? justies, thankyou,
They're magistrates which means they're volunteers and they do like to sit on the fence! They will often eat out the hands of a lawyer or Cafcass officer and it can be difficult to challenge them or get them to see another point of view when you are self repping.
As I said, I would focus on getting some legal help to do your next court statement so that you can at least attempt to challenge the current situation and get it moving forward. If you have had any reasonable requests from Cafcass like attending SPIP etc, just do it and jump through the hoops so that you are squeaky clean.
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