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Hello firstly im new so id like to say hi. Now ive been married 5 years and the relationship is good. I also have 2 kids. Now here is the issue. Like I said weve been married and faithful to each other for 5 years and I love her and my sons more than anything. But I dont know what to do my wife is not really helping anymore I do the majority of laundry cleanin and taking care of the kids now we both have jobs and we are never apart beyond working were always together. But it feels like im working 2 jobs and the one at homr is harder. I find myself enoying work more than home because there is so much I have to do only time when I get a break is at night when all is asleep. Also my wife never wants to be intimate anymore and im frustrated there to the point were its really putting a strain on me. Ive tried to talk to her but she just rolls her eyes threatened to leave and she will do better for a week and then go back to the same old routine. I dont want divorce bc I love her and the kids but what canI do she wont go to ccounseling I know and she looks at me like im lazy when I pulling almost all the weight around the house and work. Any advice?
Hi and welcome to the forums Jared,
Unfortunately I am unable to help you but there are plenty of people on here who can. Posting your personal life on a forums is a big thing and it shows you care. Good luck and im sure you can both make it work.
Hi Jared and welcome.
There really is little practical advice I can offer if she is refusing to attend mediation....Relate do have online couple counselling and also phone contact, might this be possible?
As far as the housework is concerned all I can think of is sitting down with her and working out a rota, and one for the kids too, so that you are making it a family thing.
Intimacy, or the lack of it, goes with the territory of working full time and having kids....you just have to be imaginative, try and arrange romantic nights out, flowers and compliments and little thinks like that might help.
Good luck
Thanks I have tried all these things our 5th anniversary was friday and went all out and still got no attention. As for counseling ive tried to talk to her with no luck the same goes with housework
do you think she may be depressed? Mediation or relate might be the best option, relate are brilliant and neither are really counselling, you might have to sit her down and be brutally honest and tell her exactly how you feel and point out you need to do something seems like you both need to show your cards 🙂
She sounds like she's in a depression rut alright and taking you for granted . You know the situation and her we don't , get through the defence mechanisms i.e. rolling eyes etc. the best way you can and tell her how you feel before it all turns sour , the type of sour you cant take . If you feel like you've tried everything and she wont listen maybe a short sharp shock might be needed like a break i.e. A holiday for you with friends which will give her no excuse and have to be pro active in the household , good luck .
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