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Hi all. I was praying my wife would let my children ring me on Xmas day..... Nothing. She's got a non molestation order against me, so I suppose she won't let them call me anyway. I thought she might just use another phone, to let them call me. I go out, just hoping I might see my children, they might see me and shout Daddy, we love you. But in reality she would only pull them away from me. I'm beyond hurt. I'm beyond used, I'm nearly broken. And on it goes......
hi Devo,
hang in there mate. not long to go till court hearing. sounds very tough. try to remain patient and calm. don't give your ex any ammunition to use against you at court. she probably wants you to screw up and may try to wind you up.
Hi Bill. Yes I think you are right. She's trying to get anything in me to get me in trouble... I've got the re run of the pre trial hearing on 15th of January then a 3 day fact finding hearing last 3 days of January. All the allegations she made against me have been NFAd by the police last week. But at the fact finding hearing, no doubt the judge will still test her allegations.. Even though its been dropped by the police. Even if I'm found guilty, and have to attend a dvpp course, I'm looking at over a year before I can see my children. It's so unfair all this. I hope you're OK..
hi,
try not to think of the worst. only the court an order you to take a course on recommendation from cafcass, not your ex's lawyer.
Keep plugging away and don’t let the ex rattle you . They use kids as they know how much it’s a weapon. My ex was withholding contact . One Day she let me son call me and I’m sure she told him
To tell me he’d met her new bloke because once he did she took the phone off him and put the phone down . They’re like that. .stay focused on the task at hand . Then want you to do something silly as that’s when they can use it
Hi citydad... Your so right.. The police NFAd all her allegations against me last week.. Now I know she'll be on the warpath to get me... I just don't get it.. Why they just switch and become someone they promised they never would...
All about them trying to keep what power / control they have . Took me 8 months of biting my tongue and not getting annoyed but now I have an order that I doubt could be much better . Was the thought of the order making the next 10 years a tell of a lot easier that fixes your mind on what needs doing
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