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hi guys in need of some advice here my daughter is 12 month's old i pay maintenance every four weeks i have contact once a month i go and see her as it is a 2.5 -3 hr car journey plus an hour on a car ferry i have asked for more than just a day and have been refused i have offered do drive down pick up my daughter and return her all in the same day i have also offered to pay for all her travel costs here and back i have offered to pick her up have her over night and return her the next day i am at my wits end i have been told that if i carry on asking her to have more time she will take it to a contact center and i will loose all contact and will only be possible through a center
kind regards
james
Hi,
When reading what you said it was very similar to my own situation. You get a taste of fatherhood and you want more and more, its like an addiction and its only natural.
Anyways the best advice i can give is take what is on the plate for now. I know its hard but it is the process you need to go through and if the mother is decent she will allow more access once the trust has been built up. I have made tons of mistakes and im hoping i can help others to not go down the road i did. So keep your nose clean, dont nag the mother, and maybe once or twice a month if things have not progressed drop a hint and i promise the rest will follow.
Being a single dad is like bodybuilding, you will get beautiful results with patience, dedication and hard work.
Good luck
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