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My 4 year old lives in Darlington with her mum and i also have made the move as my daughter starts school soon.. its hard to keep going about life like its ok but she keeps asking me, no telling me she wants to live in Leicester with me and nana etc. Totally off of her own back. Shes so much happier their and would have a better life, at what age can this be took serious as i can see how sad she is leaving but doesnt even care when she has to leave Darlington!!
Hi There,
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I don't think at the age she is now her views would be taken into account as she is still too you, I'm not 100% certain, but would imagine that her views would be concidered when she reaches early teens and when she has matured enough to understand what moving from one parent to another would mean.
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GTTS
Hello Jerry89,
I can well imagine how you feel as the situation is similar with my grandchildren.
If you have been to court regarding access, in receipt of a Court Order and there are no safeguarding and/or welfare issues with her Mother concerning your Daughter, I believe it would be difficult for her to live with you and her Nana.
I understand a child's views are taken into account by the courts when they reach the age of about 11 or 12.
If you and her Mother have made arrangements between yourselves ( no Court Order) and her Mother agreed to your Daughter living with you then whatever decision was made between the two of you would stand.
I hope one of the moderators comment as I am not trained in law and there may be certain legalities that would need to be adhered too even when there is no Court Order and an agreement is amicably made between two parents.
As has been said, your little girl Is far too young to make decisions of this nature. Have you tried talking to the mum to see if you can increase your contact time?
If Mum won't agree and your daughter continues to ask and become upset, your only other options are mediation and if that fails, court to get some increased contact in place....if you live closely to each other you might like to think about going for shared care, courts are becoming more amenable to a schedule where a child lives with both parents, moving between homes...it can work well.
All the best
Buddy, I know the way you are feeling, I had the same situation and after few hours of talking with her, we came to common sense and decided to move in Seattle, thinking that this will be the best option for us and our daughter. Now we just need to find a moving company.
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