[Solved] My little girl

Hi do you have a contact order issued by a court.

Nope nothing via the court thou my ex says if I decide to take it to court she will stop me or my family seeing her, and if they decide I can do with her as i like in my time, she will bascially not agree to it, she tells me that they cant force her to do it if she doesnt agree with it :}

Hi

If you do go to court to get a contact order and you win (so to speak) she will have to abide by it.But a word of warning you will need very deep pocket's. I asked my solicitor to go down the court route and was told it could take up to 6-7 months and a big bag of money. And my ex would stop the little contact i have with my son until a date had been finalised because it would upset the routine we already have in place.It sounds to me your ex is a little envious that you are getting on with your new life and doing the usual emotional blackmail routine. were you married to your little girl's mother do you have Parental Responsibility if you don't this changes a number of things.

Hi There,

Welcome along,

This is something ive been through and I can tell you that she has no rights to do that, I went to court and I lost out on seeing my son for about 4-6 weeks while I waited for a court date, that was 12 months ago and now I see him every other weekend and we can do see and go where we like.

For me going to court was about being able to have freedom to do what I wanted, however it ended in me having much better access in general aswell as the freedom I wanted.

Have a read through the below threads as it starts when I joined the site and continues through my journey through the court proccess, it's not a 5 min read but will give you a pretty good insight.

http://www.dad.info/dad-talk-forum/legal-eagle/8392-restrictions-placed-on-contact

http://www.dad.info/dad-talk-forum/families-and-relationships/8555-time-to-vent

http://www.dad.info/dad-talk-forum/families-and-relationships/9949-deflated-but-starting-to-re-inflate

http://www.dad.info/dad-talk-forum/families-and-relationships/9949-deflated-but-starting-to-re-inflate?limit=6&start=6

http://www.dad.info/dad-talk-forum/welcome-to-the-forum/13568-hope-all-goes-well

Darren

Yes we was married and am just going threw the divorcee aswell, which she has finally agreed to after a year or refusing to, I understand there will be cost implications, but that's something am willing to do she is my world so is more then worth it. she is just making my daughter miss out and yes very envious tried to be right with her for the sake of my little girl, but she just makes my life [censored].

And Darren thanks alot when I get home from work tonight I will take a look.

Hi
Here what your saying buddy all our kid's mean the world to each and everyone of us.
And as separated dad's we only want what's best for them.It's really sad that because the mother is with them all the time they tend to take them for granted. Then use them as weapons to hurt us. You know what they say F*C**D UP PEOPLE DO F*C**D UP THINGS.
You got your new life now and i'm sure from what you say your little girl will be very much part of it. Good Luck 🙂

Hi and welcome

I would read yoji's guide to representing yourself at the top of the legal section, and look at the idea of doing this yourself first, and if you self-represent, then we can ask our legal experts at the CCLC to give advice where needed - it can be horrendously expensive fighting through the courts using a solicitor (I have the experience of it).

I agree with all that's been said above, your ex is wrong in what she is trying to do, and unless the courts have concerns for the welfare of a child (in which supervised contact might be ordered), when with you, your ex has no say over what you do and who your daughter meets. If you haven't already started, keep a record of every communication and conversation that takes place.

Of course, before you go down the court route, have you considered mediation yet? If not, it might be worth speaking to your ex to see if she would do so.

Finally, have you checked out the CSA calculator to find out what you would be paying if assessed by the CSA? Also, was any maintenance ordered by the court?