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After being divorced for 10 years my ex wife met someone and now they are claiming money from me that was given in cash for the past 10 years.... I am at my wits end. They are lying. I actually signed a court order to pay 2k a month when I had no chance to sustain that just to have normality with my child, and when I couldnt afford it anymore (after 7 years) she took me to court and sued me as I couldn't afford legal representation. I am fed up. Any help is appreciated
Hi There,
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Sorry to hear that you are in this situation, was the money paid as child maintenance, or spousal maintenance?
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You have said you paid in cash so i'm guessing you have no proof of the payments being made?
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We will try and help advise you, bit a little more detail would help, if you don't want to give that detail on the open forum, fel free to send me a private message and I will see what help I can offer.
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GTTS
Hi stavros1969,
I'm sure you are feeling a lot of strain at the moment, but you need to think clearly in order to resolve this problem.
Are you saying that a court ordered you to pay £2,000/month 10 years ago, which you paid until 3 years ago, and now your ex-wife has taken out a claim against you through the county court?
If the £2,000/month was a divorce settlement (spousal maintenance) then I suspect you will need a divorce lawyer to unravel it, the sum sounds very generous for SM and (although I'm no expert) it seems odd that it was not time limited. I was under the impression that SM was normally a fairly temporary measure and not an income for life.
If on the other hand the £2000/month was for child maintenance there will be lots of people here able to help. I suppose it depends what the court ordered you to do, and for how long, but if you have had a change of circumstances over the past few years (i.e. earn less) then it would be reasonable to refer it back to the court or use the CSA rules (in order to pay £2000/month in CM you would have to be earning something like £200,000/year).
I'm sure one of the experts on this site will be able to help if this is about child maintenance, but you will have to spell out what the problem is rather more clearly. If this is about a divorce settlement then there are probably better places to find help.
Best wishes,
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Hi Agian,
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If the £2000 was child maintenance payment then the court order for that only stands for 12 months so in reflection, I'm guessing it's either for SM or your ex has been milking yoi, some more detail would help us.
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GTTS
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