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my opinion is that you shouldn't drop it off personally, unless you can get agreement beforehand to do so. Otherwise just send them by a courier.
I can understand why you are feeling left out and upset, but unfortunately you don't have any rights pre birth and if the mother doesn't want contact with you, she is within her rights to expect you to stay away.
It's fine to let her know that whenever she's ready, you will be there for her and the baby and as much as you would like to be involved, you respect her wishes. As actd has said, without permission, it's probably better to have the items delivered by a third party.
All the best
Hello. I am really sorry to hear about your experiences and hope you get to stay in contact with your child.
Best wishes,
Sophie
Sorry Sophie, but I've edited your post here and deleted the other. We have a Media Requests section where you'll find details of who to contact to ask for permission to make requests from members for their participation.
Agree with Mojo and actd - if she has asked you to stay away, then do just that. If you want to send the baby things, then do that by post or courier.
If you don't leave her alone when asked, you could leave yourself open to claims of harassment.
Best of luck
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