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Hi
I'm new to this and am looking for help.
I separated from my wife 5 yrs ago and only recently managed to finalise the divorce after a long and drawn out battle. After this, i tried to go through the courts to stop her manipulating the children (1 is 12 and 1 is 8 ). I saw a councillor who spoke to the children and then told me she was emotionally abusing them. After this, she referred us to CAFCAS who then did a report. Unfortuneatly, the CAFCAS worker didnt believe a [censored] thing i said, ignored all the proof i had gathered over the past 5 yrs, ignored the childrens wants and completely believed their mother resulting in her then saying i was abusing them! This was upheld by the court and i could not have my kids as much as i and they wanted. Ridiculous!!
Since then (and way before) my daughter who is 12 has said on many occasions (every time she is with me) that she wants to be with us more and is now ringing when at her mothers to ask me to pick her up. the issue is there is the court order in place and my ex is very manipulative and shrewd so and so! What can i do??
All help is gratefully received! I'm at my wits end and feel completely let down by the system.
Please help!
Hi there
How long ago did you get the court order for contact and what is your contact schedule? Do your children have overnight stays with you?
You can apply to have the order varied, but you would need to attempt mediation first.
All the best
So, the court order was last year. The kids currently stay with me from Friday night through to Tuesday morning every other weekend and half the school holidays.
The issue is that my daughter really doesn't like her mothers boyfriend plus her mother is constantly lying to her also they just don't get on. There are many other little things that also contribute to their poor relationship too.
I understand that some of the issue is my daughter trying to play us off against each other but the underlying issue is still there. Every weekend we have to return her she cries her eyes out and doesn't want to go. She has even texted her mother to say she doesn't want to go back.
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