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I have two boys 13 and 8. My ex says she wants to move to Saudi to live with her husband who works there my 13 yr old flatly refuses so would come live with me and my wife, she says my 8 yr old wants to go but will miss me. I don't think he fully understands the implications of moving to Saudi ! She says she's not stopping me from seeing him cos I can see him in school holidays and that the courts would agree with her that she can take him. I see my boys, who are my world , every Wednesday then every other weekend from picking them up from school on Friday to takin them school Mondays and have done for about 5 yr now. I dont understand how she can split the boys up and take one an not the other and say it will be good for him. I'll never agree to letting her take him. Does any one have any advice thanks
Hi there
I can totally understand where you're coming from here. There are arguably good reasons why you should fight to keep the children from being taken to Saudi.
Those two boys have a close sibling relationship and it would be a travesty to split them up, courts are always loathe to split siblings up as it is deemed to be detrimental to them.
Their relationship with you and their wider family will suffer, they will miss their peers and school and their way of life will be completely different to anything they are used to.
Saudi is a strict Muslim country, there is much unrest in the region and air travel would be a concern to me.
If she wants to move because of her husbands job does that mean it will be for a certain duration and then when the contract is over they will return to the UK or to another country for another contract. If that's the case then disrupting them for a period of time and then moving them back here or on to another country isn't good for them when they can have a stable home life with you.
She is quite wrong that its a given that the courts will agree with her and allow her to take them. I think there's enough in your favour for you to try and stop her.
Your first step would be Mediation to try and discuss the situation and reach agreement. If this is unsuccessful the mediator will sign the appropriate form for you to apply to court for a Prohibited Steps Order, to prevent her from removing them out of the jurisdiction.
The court will listen to each side of the argument and make a decision based on what they consider is in the best interests of the children. Your oldest child's wishes and feelings will be taken into account and will carry weight with the court due to his age. As it is agreed that the oldest will remain and live with you as you can provide him with a stable and loving home, then it would follow that this would be best for both of them so that they can stay together.
Thanks for your advice, her husband works for bae I think, all the boys know and have told me is that he learns people to put bombs on planes ? !!! A while back he was trying to get a move to Switzerland but nothing's been said about that but like you said would he be moving about and disrupting Harry's life to live with his job thanks
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