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Hi I know this is a dad forum but I can't seem to get any decent advice from anywhere else so here goes.
Myself and ex split up when our son was 3 weeks old.ex didn't want to see him until he was 4.
We went to court I did not contest and he started having weekly supervised contact over a course of 3 years he missed a lot of contact but I still agreed to progress it we managed to agree on 1 whole day a week as he didn't want overnight.
After a heated argument where he tried to run myself and our child over which has cctv evidence he was given a warning by the police he then came to my sons school after i had dropped him in to class and hit me around the back of the head again many witnesess and a non mol order was put on him which he accepted.he has knowtaken me back to court stating I have tried to stopped contact.
Here's the thing I offered and still do the whole day which he wanted but on the paper work he only wants 6 hours a month .
Is there anything I can do to help him want more time with our child???
Thankyou
Hi and welcome
A court will order the time that a child must be made available for contact, but they can't and won't order that the father actually attends. Unfortunately, it can only really come from the father as to whether he wants to see his child.
As actd says, unfortunately not, a court can't make him see the child more than he wants to, but as he has made an application to court and wants to reduce the amount of time he spends with your son, you could argue that it's not in your sons best interests to reduce the contact and that he often lets your son down and doesn't turn up. He will be questioned about why he wants to do this and it might be that the court will think that it's not in your sons best interests and refuse to make any order, especially taking into account the police warning and the assault on you.
As much as you might want him to keep seeing your son, if theres no commitment from his father to build a proper relationship with his son, might it be better to allow the reduction and ask that it be supervised until the father can show his commitment.
Thankyou I think your right I will agree with the reduced hours I just feel really bad for my son.
They haven't seen each other for nearly a year so I was was thinking that I should offer indirect while he goes on dvpp to show commitment and then contact centre when he has successfully completed his course.
Thankyou for your help x
Jesus christ i have been a pain and ruined alot of things but i have done nothing anywhere near as bad as what your ex has done to you, i so wish the mother of my child was a eager to have me in my childs life as you are in having the father in your kids life.
I cant really add anything extra here but i will say i wish alot more mothers were like you, you seem strong and i do wish you all the best,
good luck dude 🙂
Hi and welcome to the forum
I would say go for supervised contact at the moment. As has been said, his father needs to demonstrate he is committed to having a relationship with him.
Good luck
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