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Hi Dad's,
This is the first time I've felt the need to turn to a forum like this.
First a little back story..
Married my wife in 2009 1 month after our daughter was born, she already had 2 children and we had been together for approximately 2 years.
After a rocky 7 years together she decided it was over and forced me out of the family home saying if I was there then her and the kids wouldn't be. So thinking of the kids I moved out to my parents so that they could sleep in their own beds.
5 days after this my wife moved our lebian neighbour into the house. Shortly after this she announced to me via text that she was now in a lesbian relationship with the once neighbour.
She spent the next 2 years going backwards and forwards between her girlfriend and my 2 step children's dad. 2 to 3 times she made the switch each time doing it in plain sight of the kids with no discretion at all.
She is currently with the girlfriend!
I pay maintenance willingly and also provide everything from head to toe when my daughter is with me, my mum looks after her in school holidays as we both work. Homework is only ever done with me and so too is reading (both are required by the school). I can count on 1 hand how many times my daughter has had a bath at her mums in the past 2 months and she is always (95% of the time ) late for school.
I myself have now been in a relationship with someone for 18 months. My daughter doesn't know this as I feel her mum messes her head around enough for me to not need to confuse her my end too, she knows my girlfriend and gets on great with her, she just doesn't know shes my girlfriend. I live alone in a nice 3 bedroom house in a great location for kids and schools etc. I currently get every other weekend and alternate Tuesdays to Tuesday and Wednesdays. We live 2 miles from each other at the moment.
That is a very breif explanation of the past 2 years.
Now the bombshell which came this morning.
I got a letter today stating that she's moving 2 1/2 hours drive away. Shes offered quite a bit, 3 weekends a month with her doing half the travel and a reduction in maintenance costs. That's all well and good but shes proven in the past that she cant stick to arrangements that we make. In her letter she states that she is the primary carer, this i don't agree with. Yes she is with her more as she won't let me have anymore time but all the actual care and raising of our child comes from me and my parents.
Is there anything i can do to stop this? Is the only ootion to fight for custody? I have more than enough support to provide a world of care for my daughter.
I've booked myself in with a solicitor tomorrow but any advice you can offer is appreciated greatly.
Thanks in advance
Paul
Hi Paul
How did it go with the solicitor today?
As expected. Shes glossed it all up very nicely but if I can prove inconsistency in her word I should get a prorbited steps order to say she can't go until the court is satisfied that an arrangement had been made and will be kept.
I feel so broken today, trying to put a brave face on for my daughter.
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