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I have been separated from my wife for nearly a year now and we have been granted Deci nisi. I currently have access to my twins every other weekend (Friday to Sunday) and for one night in the week. However, this is not an overnight stay.
I have asked my ex for overnight access for the one day in the week but she is refusing. I asked her what her reason was and was given a load of [censored] and bull.
What are my options?
Hello Dave,
Your first option - as you have tried talking directly - is mediation. How old are your twins? Are they of school age, and do you live a reasonable travel distance from the school if they are? A standard arrangement term-time is the child (children) being with the 'non-residential' (such a loaded and demeaning term) parent every other weekend and a midweek overnight.
Given that the twins already stay overnight with you every other weekend, the only possible justification your ex could have for objecting to the midweek overnight might be if there is a considerable distance and time from your home to school.
There’s also an argument for the midweek overnight, as you would be able to be more involved with their school or nursery, getting to know their teachers/assistants and keep up with their progress.
thanks mojo. my ex refuses mid-week overnight, so now I'm seeking after school hours mid-week contact with kids every week. e.g. library/playtime. if only cafcass put this in their recommendations lol, would have made things much easier.
Toks,
We are just about to attempt Mediation for the second time so let’s hope that helps.
The twins are 7 and I live within 1 mile of their school and 3 miles from their new home.
I have emailed my ex asking for more contact but she has not replied. What really hurts is the twins ask if they can see me more and stay overnight during the week, but I have to say, let’s see what Mummy says.
I am at a loss about what to do if Mediation fails?
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