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Hi guys.. I'm here alone, in a room with a sink. Dreading Xmas, knowing my children want to see me, but my wife won't let it be. Anyone who knows my story, it's now very clear she's alienating them from me. Is it not bad enough she stole all my money, and left me homeless. Then took out a non molestation order against me and an occupation order, so I can never return. My children are saying they want to see me, but mummy says no, daddy's is a dangerous man.. My 11 year old says, he's our daddy and we love him. I've spoken to the early years team about my wifes choice of words in front of the children, and they tell me that they have spoken to her about not being rude, or derogatory about me in front of them, but she's ignored the advice. I would love to see my 4 children at Christmas, even if it was just 5 minutes. She's ignored the court order to file and serve on time, she thinks it's a game, but it's not. My children are suffering, I'm suffering, all because she is a narcissist, a liar, a cheat and a thief. Sorry for the rant guys, just lonely, and longing to see my children...
Hi Devo.
I am so sorry to hear of your situation, having been through similar I can totally relate. That empty feeling at Xmas is not a nice feeling.
I know the court process is very frustrating, especially when they dont do as they are ordered to do. What is important is that you keep your cool and not to breach any of those orders. That's what she wants so she can say told you so.
This Xmas is going to be tough for you but I urge you to try and make some alternative plans just to try and occupy the mind. Just think this time next year things could be totally different and you could be looking forward to having a lovely day with the children.
I feel your pain, Devo. I have my final hearing in 5 days (i hope its the final one anyway) and I am hoping i can get time with my girls over Christmas, as well as me missing them, my entire family are too. I have already missed fathers day, my 40th birthday and my eldest daughters first ever sports day. It kills me.
I hope you can get some sort of contact sorted out soon.
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