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I had my son late in life. he is now 16 and at college.His mother left five years ago, leaving our son with me and has never paid a penny in child support.She works full time.She took me to court trying to claim half of my pensions, one military and the other is the state pension.The judge threw it out of court and advised her to support her son.She didn't.Now our son has to travel twelve miles each way to college and I have managed to get him a cheap moped as we live in the countryside and public transport is minimal. Things were not good between his mother and I as I found out about her affairs and she turned nasty and violent, to the stage I had to get a restraining order on her.Now I am finding it difficult with the running cost of his moped and all the other things that he needs and I would like to ask her for £50 a month to help him out.I cannot afford a solicitor and our son says he doesn't like asking her for money.I know if I speak to her she will just start screaming down the phone.Any ideas would be gratefully received.Thank you.
Hi
As your son is in full time education, your ex has an obligation to pay maintenance until he leaves.
You need to call the Child Maintenance Service and open a case against the mother to pay;
https://www.gov.uk/child-maintenance/overview
This link explains how to go about it.
If she refuses to pay them, they can take the money directly from her salary and will charge her an additional 20% to collect the money. If that method is used, you will have to forfeit 4% of what she has to pay.
Good luck
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