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Hello my son lives with my ex's mother who I get on with well just not so much the mother her self who is in long term hospital maybe back in few months.
As it stands me or my own mum pick him up on a wedesday 9am till 5pm and 1 overnight Friday 9am till 5pm the next day I work diffrent shifts so me and my mum work it between are selfs this has been in place for 3 months now.
I'm worried if I have to apply for contact when she's back I will get less than what I'm getting now because of his age (10 months) we they take into account what's been in place for a while now I really don't want visitation schedules because it means I can't do my own thing with my kid and it's hard to change shifts at my job tho being aloud to pick him up is easier because you can define who else can pick him up so won't have to change jobs
Hi there
If you have to apply to the court in the future and you can show that you have worked with his grandmother and had a regular routine of contact that worked well, I see no reason why a court would want to disrupt that. Have you talked to your ex's mum about your fears? She may be able to help you by talking to her daughter about what is best for your son....keeping his routines and having both parents involved in his life.
If Children's Services are still involved I would also talk to them about your worries, they may also be able to talk to her on her discharge from hospital.
All the best
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