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Morning all,
My first time here and am looking for some advice please!
Im having trouble at the min with my ex partner regarding that dreaded subject, MONEY! Now I pay the agreed amount every month, on time via bank transfer, I even add a little to the agreed amount aswell if iv had a bit of a good month on the old Overtime. I see my daughter as often as I can but due to my job having a regular routine is not the easiest of things to keep too. Now the problems start where she decides she want more money out of me at her choice, I'm not talkin a extra £10 or so she's wanting up to a extra £50+ and that's impossible as I'm now in a relationship where I also have 2 children to support aswell as my usual bills like rent etc. When I say I can not afford anymore money she threatens me with the CSA constantly, is this fair?? Can they get involved if I am actually making regular payments on our agreement which I can prove?? Just because she wants more surely it's not fair to just demand more at her willy-nilly!!
I am afraid they can and do . Best to look at the CMS calculator and workout what you should be paying . If it's more than you are currently paying best get a family based written agreement in place .
Hi there
Here's a link to the calculator so that you can check what you would be expected to pay if your ex goes through the CMS.
www.gov.uk/calculate-your-child-maintenance
It's roughly 12% of your gross income and if you have your child overnight, a reduction of one seventh for each night is made on the weekly amount you are expected to pay.
All the best
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