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Hi There
This is a bit of a long drawn out complicated affair.
It began 2 years ago when my violent and abusive partner left, after threatening to throw me down the stairs. I remained in the house, as there were no children. Unknown to me she slapped a lean with the land registry, as I found out when i went to renegotiate the mortgage a year later.
Mean time i met a lovely woman who had separated from her husband and had two lovely girls aged 7 and 10. and we want to buy a place together.
My ex decided not to accept my offer of 60% of the profit from the house and £400 per month maintenance, and go down the form E route. which she then delayed for 6 months only submitting it 3 weeks ago, and it basically states the house should be sold and what she wants, which is exactly what was offered.
I have an offer on the house, which id love to accept, and it gives enough for the settlement. but still she delays. claiming poverty, yet has been to america and india twice this year.
My partners house is up for sale, and we await viewings on it, as that will generate the deposit for new house..
Meantime My divorce papers were submitted to that awful Bury St Edmunds place in may, and still do not have the NISI or any communication.
Its becoming so frustrating, surely the legal process has to be easier than this
not sure why this went in here... meant it to go into legal area
Unfortunately the wheels of justice turn very slowly, and their administration is notoriously poor. The courts are bursting at the seams with family and divorce proceedings and this makes for a very frustrating time for those stuck in it. Hang on in there, it does get easier.
Hi There,
As said above things can be slow moving, have you heard anything about the divorce though as I would have thought they would have made some contact by now, it could be worth chasing and trying to find out what the hold up is.
I think that you could do with some legal advice, a lot of solicitors will off a free session, the main idea is for them to know what your case is but you can ask some questions while there.
GTTS
I do have a solicitor, and she is very good. she is just as frustrated as my ex's side started all this and they are delaying it as much as possible. her intention i think is to leave me bankrupt and homeless, as 2 years ago i finally stood up to her mental and physical abuse. I gave her the choice to leave or throw me down the stairs and kill me... either option was frankly fine by me.
But at the moment im paying an average of £300 per month, and have nothing to show. I have heard the bury st edmunds centre is pretty incompetent and not fit for purpose.
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