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Hello lads!
I bought my own house April 2017 on my own with money is worked hard to save. It needed a full refurb which I did 90% of the work. I had a girlfriend since 2013 and I proposed to her in Dec 2017 (we had not lived together). She was found pregnant to twins in September 17 (again not living together). In the nearly 5 years we have been together I have tried breaking from her several times but she always pulls me back in, I was happy finding out she was pregnant and what with the house etc I thought step up be a man and propose as I do love her obviously. It was very stressful as I only finished the house on 10 April 18 and she moved in the 11th. Babies popped out on 2 May 18 and it was amazing, stressful but amazing. We are getting married on 31st August 18 but I really don't want to especially now the dust has settled and I can see what life I'm gunna lead if I stay with her (an unhappy one). I love the babies and I love her I just don't REALLY want to be with her.
If we do get married and then in several years or however long perhaps split up, does she get my house? Are there ways I can safeguard it if we do split up? I'm happy supporting the babies etc but feel like she'd try taking me to the cleaners if it was to happen.
Thanks lads, any help would be great!
I doubt that you would be able to protect yourself financially once married because a court will expect you to provide for your children in divorce, and that includes contributing towards a place for them to live, and that includes provision for your wife. If you think it's not going to be a happy marriage, then you owe it to both your partner and yourself not to go ahead with it, or at least to postpone it, or to get couples counselling and resolve any issues beforehand.
I totally agree with actd, its a huge mistake to get married if you're already thinking about splitting up afterwards! Dont do it!
You could ask out finance Moderator, you'll find her thread here
Hi There,
I agree with both the above, if you are having doubts then don't get married, stay as you are you if you are able to and see where things go, you may find in time that you want to get married and then you can look at it again.
If you get married you could end up regretting it.
Financially there is only one way to protect yourself and that would be a prenuptial where you would both agree what you partner would walk away with if you split, it would need to be a legally binding contract through a solicitor, but as said you shouldn't really enter into a marriage when you are already thinking the worst.
GTTS
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