[Solved] Just saying Hi

Hi Rizzy and welcome.

Have a good look through the stickies at the top of the Legal Eagle section.

There's a great book written by Lucy Reed a family barrister;

http://www.nofamilylawyer.co.uk/

Post any questions and sure you will get responses. Good luck.

Hi there and welcome to the forum 🙂

This must be a really distressing time for you and we will do all we can to advise and support you.

There are quite a few members that have found attending a Families Need Fathers meeting in their area helpful and supportive, it helps to meet with people going through similar situations. Here's a link to their webpage where you will find information about meetings in your area

www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings

As Yoda says, anything you would like help with just post in the appropriate section and someone will I'm sure be along to offer advice and support.

thanks guys, I've got a lot to digest over the coming weeks any and all advice is really welcome

Is there a similar organisation to FNF in Wales?

ignore me, found the link....

Hi Rizzy,

Welcome along, sorry you have only found us becuase of your circumstances but we will do all we can to help and advise.

You won't need a solicitor for too much as long as your situation isn't overly complicated so don't worry too much about that, whilst your digesting things when questions pop into your head post them up and we will answer them as best we can. Just remember not to post so much detail that if your parter/ex partner was too stumble accross the site she would know it was you discussing your case, if you need to get specific in some detail then feel free to private message any of us modeerators and we will help.

GTTS

I'd recommend this as well

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Divorce-Splitting-Up-Advice-Lawyer-ebook/dp/B00RM0ZU6A/ref=tmm_kin_title_0?_encoding=UTF8&sr=&qid=

99p if you have a kindle reader or kindle app.

Well, just got back from a family holiday, which we decided would still go ahead for the sake of the kids. Some of her family were there and a number of discussions we had about the future, surprisingly a lot of her family were on my side.......

The truth for her wanting a divorce has now come out (although not from her but her sister!!), and its as I have suspected she is seeing someone else. This gave me a few sleepless nights during the break, but it makes me see sense why she has been pushing me for a really quick end to the divorce and has backed down on quite a few things she was demanding.... I havent raised the cheating with her yet, waiting for a time when the kids are not around, which during summer hols is never easy, but for myself I need her to admit whats happening and hopefully it will help me mentally to move on, as I am still really struggling to manage my emotions and keep hitting some real lows

On an aside, she has come out in a nasty spread of white spots in and around her mouth (almost look like blisters), I'm thinking she has gone and got herself a nasty bout of something from her new fella.... 🙂 Think I will tell her to stay away from kids until she gets it diagnosed as it looks nasty and contagious.

It must be such an emotional rollercoaster for you. Make sure you take care of yourself and the children and focus on that while you're trying to move on.

Karma works in mysterious ways.

Hi to all the MODE I'm OK!;-)

So yesterday morning whilst the kids were all in bed, and before she went to work, I just asked her to say hello to xxx xxx for me (the guy I thought she was seeing)... I got lucky with a correct guess on his name (I'd narrowed it down to 2 with one very likely candidate), she really went off on one, and threatened me with all sorts if I was to try and use the fact that she is cheating on me in the divorce proceedings which she started?!! I'm not interested, just want some truth out of her and to move on with whats best for the kids and me.

She thinks I got the detail from someone she works with and is so paranoid its unbelievable and was even threatening to go to her HR department to see if they could get this person (who does not exist) "sacked" for telling me she was going out to lunch with this guy every day (Her Sister told me that). I just kept quiet and will let her dig her own holes.

one thing I have noticed is that she is talking more and more to the kids about what she wants out of the divorce and how I am the bad one for not giving her what she wants etc etc (Her current line is she needs 100% of the positive equity on the house). She is really playing mind games with them .

She has also started to get quite nasty towards me (even before I dropped the name on her), I keep a level head at all times, never raise my voice (most times I dont even get out of my desk chair), but more than once she has been really confrontational, throwing things at me and really getting in my face. I have a suspicion she is trying to get me to bite and respond badly.

My case going forward is going to be all about positioning myself as the Primary Carer, I have a worry that if she doesnt get me to rise to one of her outbursts that she will try to fabricate something against me and this will damage my case. Is there anything I can do with the solicitor to protect me against potential allegations (dont want to pay to see solicitor unless there is some benefit in it for me)??? Something to get me on the front foot rather than being reactive to everything she does.

Cheers