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My sons girlfriends mother lives in the village where my father grew up and was able to tell me some information that lead me to alot of information about my father who I've been trying to find.i had the wrong spelling for his surname for years. I'm 53 and my father is 75. I was adopted because his mother refused to let him marry my mother. I want to speak to him as times passing and he may have had regrets about his decision back then. I know who a cousin is now via Facebook and he will most probably know where he is as he recently moved from Telford the Somerset.
can you give me advice as to how to proceed from here. If I'm a secret I don't want to upset my father by telling any family members.
kind regards
Mary
Hi Mary
I absolutely understand your dilemma...I do know that the Salvation Army has a tracing service
www.salvationarmy.org.uk/about-reuniting-families
Perhaps you could contact them and they could approach your father for you. They’re very experienced in dealing with this sort of situation and I would think that they will do so with sensitivity. In any regard they will be able to advise you on the best way to deal with it and support you emotionally.
I do hope they can help you. Best of luck
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